The Ultimate Guide to Impact Play

Somatica Institute
7 min readJun 25, 2021

As you explore your kinky tendencies, your journey may lead you to the wonderful, healing world of impact play. Within this adrenaline-fueled playground await some of the most exciting and edgy expressions of desire. Prepare yourself to be wowed — and to revel in the delicious line between pleasure and pain.

Are you enticed? Impact play awaits you. Here’s your ultimate guide to bringing it all to life.

What is Impact Play?

But first off — what is impact play, anyway? The practice is defined as a human sexual expression in which a person is struck by another for the sexual gratification of both. It’s associated with BDSM, and the activities involved may include flogging, spanking, punching, caning, cropping, and paddling. Sex toys may also play a role.

Start With Some Erotic Spanking

Many begin their journey into impact play with erotic spanking. It can be defined as consensual impact using one’s hands (normally on the buttocks or upper thighs). This can happen during other kinds of sexual intimacy, or may be a stand-alone experience that people enjoy.

Before slapping your partner’s hindquarters, it’s always good to have a discussion about their desires and boundaries. (This applies to all sexy play!) You have so many options here. Share your desires with your partner and see where it lands with them. Do you want to spank them? Do you want them to spank you? How hard? How much? Do you want to be called something specific while you are being spanked?

Getting clear on all of this can be so much fun and create the space for more sexplorations.

Juicy Spanking Tips

Now that you and your partner have decided how you’d like your delicious spank session to go, it’s time to let your desires burst into life. There are some great spanking tips to keep in mind when indulging in erotic spanking.

Safe Words: It’s a good idea to have some safe words throughout all erotic impact play. One of the easiest indicators of you or your partner’s…



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